Revising the Way We Think

Zhuhai, Guangdong China 

Have you ever made a terrible mistake and the hard rains started to fall? It is almost as if the forces of nature wanted to add an insult to injury. Unless you're a person that loves getting drenched in the hard rainfall.

Have you ever thought of something with passion and near certainty, but when you started saying your idea out loud you noticed a critical error? That might lead some people to humiliation. Unless you are the kind of person who talks to yourself. Then, perhaps you made your discovery in private.

We all have a need for revision. There is nothing wrong with that. We also have a responsibility and a duty to be accurate with facts and information. It is very easy to find things that we would like to be true and find facts that only support that argument. This is the basis of confirmation bias. We can overcome it...and we can enjoy it in the process.

All people hold onto something that they believe it is true. For some it is a belief in their long-lasting relationship or friendship. They force themselves to believe that the relationship is good for them, or that it can get better...or sometimes they know that it won't get better, and they don't have any feeling for the other person at all...the only reason they stay is because they believe it will bring too much conflict into their lives if they try to leave.

The same principle of revision can be applied to relationships and friendships. While we may not be able to predict the motivations, actions, and thoughts of other people, we can predict them and control them for ourselves. You can know when your relationship is getting into trouble, and sometimes you might even have to make that vital choice to leave someone. An honest decision can bring less destruction to the world than one that is not sincere.

One can share ideas and views on belief and get challenged. However, one of the most beneficial ways to go about this is to find a forum which welcomes the exchange of thought. So many insist that they have the right to share views on politics and religion whenever they want...it is their freedom....and they are right to believe so.

However, if we want to convey a message to someone...if the intention is genuine and pure...then, why not choose a forum where people are actually listening and making an effort to comprehend the message you are choosing to share? And in return, you can listen to what someone else has to say and make an effort to at least hear their words and exchange ideas and even criticisms with fairness, politeness, and of course honor.

During our lifetime, we will make mistakes. This is certain, for we, as humans, are all imperfect. As beings of imperfection, we do not have the luxury of a faultless lifestyle. We will make mistakes in both facts and in the relationships that we choose...friendship or romantic....However, the only way to move forward is simple:

Believe in your principles. Always keep a strong heart. Love yourself, but accept responsibility for your mistakes. Be honest and sincere with your friendships and relations. Challenge yourself, but only in the honest attempt of getting stronger and helping others to get stronger. Know that at some point you might have errors in your judgment and in  your words...but so does every other single person that can speak.

Errors are not the end of life, nor are they any meaning of importance. The only thing that is important is that you try to succeed, master your own thought, and try to help others do the same. Strength is only of importance if it is applied both to the body and to the mind. A strong body without integrity is a villain. It is time for you to become the hero.

Learn. Study. Practice. Revise. Challenge. Love.

Prosperity. Honor. Progress.